Do not put the blame on yourself or think it is you personally
that is the cause of this strange behavior by his parents. They, never meeting
you, don’t really know you and would probably have a problem with any young
girl their son was with. They or the mother, most probably, does not want to
share her son with another female and is one of those mothers that cannot live
with the reality that someone else, (in her mind, another “women”) is getting
the attention of her precious son and will take him away from her. Or maybe this is not the case and they really
are just too strange to understand. Either way don’t beat yourself up over this,
it has nothing to do with you personally. If this boy wants to be with you bad
enough, he will stand up to his parents; or mother, and defend you. If he doesn’t
then you must make a decision, should I stay or should I go?
I don’ t know your age but I take it you are still very
young. The world is a big beautiful place when you are young, so much to
explore and so much to learn, don’t live it frustrated, especially over some boy!
That is no way to carry on, there are many people you have yet to meet, some
will be good and you know, some not so good and some just downright WT???
Youth is a special time in your life but it is fleeting,
before you know it you will be looking back and wondering where it all went.
Don’t spend it with someone who only brings you frustration, there are many
other good people out there who would really appreciate you and like you for
who you are. I hope you find them or they find you, whichever. Unless you like
this boy so much that you simply cannot live without him ( and that would be a
shame because you are too young to be so tragic) you should just pull up stakes
and move on. Experience other people, you are too young to get hooked on one
person, this is all a part of youth. You will have many relationships and
friendships and you will learn something from each one to take with you through
life’s journey. You will meet someone that you think is “the one” and fall
deeply in “like” with them; not love for heaven’s sake. If you are as young as
I think, you are not mature enough to experience real love, I mean really, real
love . Don’t take it too hard, there are many people in their 20’s and older
that are still not mature enough to know really, real love. You may fall into and out of “like” several
times before you are ready to move on. Don’t worry about it, that is all a part
of youth. The pain will soon go away and you will learn from it. Become
stronger and move on to get to where you will eventually find the one you are
meant to be with and really know, “this is the one”.
You need to experience life more, learn a few things and
discover yourself, find out who you are before you allow someone into your life
close enough to have so deep an effect on you. Your life, your very soul is the
most precious gift you have that you can give to someone else, the most
precious. Hold on to it and guard it. When you do give it you should know in
you heart of hearts that you are confident in who you are and that you are
bestowing this precious gift of yours to the right person; someone who will protect it and love it as
much as you do. When you are ready to move from “like” to “love” you will know
it in your heart and soul. You will notice a difference in you that may be very
confusing for a time, when it won’t go away and you feel like you’re losing
your sanity, you will just know. Take
your time, this is not something to rush into, remember, you are a precious
gift not to be given lightly and you can only fall in love for the first time once!
If you are lucky and through the grace of God, once will be enough.
Once is tough enough and there is no feeling on earth like
when you finally know and make that first big step. The first time is the best
time, you may have a second chance, but you will always remember your
first. So think about who you are with,
is this person helping you grow, can you be yourself when you’re are with this
person? Can you see yourself with this person a year from now or more, how do
you see your life with them? If you do it right maybe those first time memories
can be with your first one.
It can be done, though many have tried and failed, but it
can be done.
I know I ran a little long, but I hope this helps.
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